You Have Choice

by Mark I Myhre on April 29, 2013

So far we’ve covered four basic tenets of emotional healing –

1. You’re here for a purpose, on a mission, and with a plan.
2. You have a beautiful precious delicate heart.
3. You are loved more than it’s possible to understand.
4. You are enough, by birthright.

Choice Makes Things Happen

Choice Makes Things Happen

And now, we’re on the fifth article – You Have Choice.

Here’s where I should start tiptoeing. Because you might not want to hear what I have to say. Too bad.

But look at where we’re at so far. Look at those first four statements up there. Think about it. How could you not have choice? And how could it not be the overriding factor in your life?

How could it not be your ultimate trump card?

Here’s what it’s like:

You’re driving your classic, creampuff, perfectly restored pink Cadillac in the ghettos of Detroit. It’s such a beautiful car you don’t even want to get a drop of mud on the fenders. Much less wreck it.

How it the HELL are you going to make it through there without a firm grip on the steering wheel? Have you ever been to Detroit? Get real.

I can guarantee you, somebody’s behind the wheel of that beauty.

It’s the same way with the car called ‘your life’. Some part of you is making the choices in your life.

There’s no way it could be any other way.

You must have the ability, the power, the joy, of being able to choose in this life. You must.

It’s so essential, it’s so important, it’s so valuable, this thing called choice. And for you to even believe anything else, then it’s going to hurt you and cause you pain.

If you don’t believe choice is a valuable, essential part of your life, then you will be in pain. If you deny choice it will hurt you. Why is that?

You are traveling through life, and you don’t know what’s behind the next bend. If you can’t make adjustments as you go, then you’re going to run into things. You’ll run into a ditch, or you’ll hit a wall. Or worse. It always happens.

Here’s the kicker:

Some part of you is making the choices in your life. All day long. All day long, choices must be made. And if you’re not conscious of it, if you’re not focused on it, then that means some other part of you is making those choices for you.

Gee, I wonder who that could be?

Is it your ego? Is it your inner child? Is it your inner martyr, or your inner victim? Who is it?

Is it your inner teen? The part of you who’s still stuck in high school, or junior high?

Or is it the part of you who never got enough love as a child?

I guarantee you somebody’s there, behind the wheel of the car of your life. It could be no other way. Life demands a representative. Some part of you must stand up and represent the whole of you.

A part of you must step up to make the choices in your life. And you are the one who decides which part of you steps up.

You are the one who pulls the strings of your life… with your intention. Now, I’ll admit, you had some pretty strong intentions before you even came down here. You set the trajectory of your life before you were born. You knew where the rest stations and the pitfalls would be. You knew of your defining moments.

It’s like starting in Chicago, and you’re about to drive to LA. Sure, the big choice was to even take the journey. And you made lots of choices before you left your destination, that affect you now.

But you’re here now. Somewhere outside of St. Louis. Lost and cold and hungry with no friends. And it’s like you’re turning to your child and asking them what you should do. They don’t have a clue as to how to get to Los Angeles.

That’s what it’s like when you’re not conscious of choice.

You need to step up to the plate and pay attention to the choices you’re making. You see what I’m saying? Your life demands that you start making choice more conscious.

You need to bring more consciousness to your choices and you need to start doing it now. Choice and consciousness need to merge in your life.

Because it’s like you’re riding in the back seat of your own car, barreling down the highway, and you’ve got some juvenile delinquents up in the front seat, behind the steering wheel. They’re on a joy ride with YOUR life. If you don’t take the wheel this is not going to end well.

It is vital to your life and well-being that you recognize the value and the power of the gift called choice. It is vital.

Choice is not a burden. Choice is a magic wand. And it’s fully charged. Choice allows miracles to happen. Of the many, many gifts you were given at birth… by your birthright… I can’t think of any more joyful than your ability to choose what happens to you in your life.

Things happen because of choice. Choice is the very front line of reality creation. As you go through life… it’s like a warm knife cutting through butter… and your choice is at the very cutting edge.

The biggest problem people have with choice:

If choice is real, that means I chose my life. And my life sucks. And it’s too confronting to think about the fact that I chose this shit. So I don’t believe in choice.

Well, guess what? You didn’t choose it to be like this. Not directly, anyway.

Nobody chooses to be miserable and live a life of pain and despair and hopelessness and emptiness. You did not come here to be miserable.

But if I had choice, and choice is powerful, and I made choices… what happened…?

Here’s what it’s like:

You’re sitting in your house, and you want to be comfortable. You want to feel good. But it’s hot in the house. So you go over to the thermostat, to turn on the AC, to cool it down so you’ll feel better.

But your thermostat is wired backwards…

You walk over to the thermostat. You turn the knob and the AC kicks on. But instead of the cool air you were expecting, it’s hot air. Because even though you made what you thought was the right move, you didn’t realize the thermostat was wrong.

It’s getting hot in the room. You think you didn’t turn down the temperate enough, so you turn it down even more. Which makes it get even hotter.

So you make another choice to turn down the temp even more. And it just keeps getting worse and worse.

Turning down the temperature is like choosing to shut down your feelings. Because everybody knows feeling are bad and wrong and you shouldn’t feel them. All you want to do is feel good. So you choose to stop feeling bad. You shut down the feelings. And when that doesn’t work, you choose to shut them down a little more.

And as your emotions go, so goes the quality of your life. No matter how good of a front you put up, inside you know you’re suffering. Something’s not right. But all you see to do is to turn down that temperature control even more. Eventually you get sick of even dealing with it, and turn it over to the kids in the house.

It’s not the steering wheel that’s the problem. Choice is working just fine. The problem is, we give up on choice. Choice doesn’t give up on us. It just atrophies.

Choice becomes weak just like a muscle that’s never used becomes weak.

Choice can get you out of the ditch and back on the road to your destination. Choice can cool things down and make life enjoyable again. Choice is your ace in the hole. Choice is what saves your ass. I’m serious. Choice can be more powerful than any belief, any program, any pain you’re going through.

But you have to exercise the muscle of choice. Make it strong. Make it powerful. Make it so that, when you make a choice, your reality changes. It’s like all you have to do is chose, and your choice happens.

I’ve seen it with my own eyes. I’ve done it. So have you. If you stop and think about it, you’ll remember times when you just chose something, or decided something, and that was it. Nothing else had to happen for that choice or decision to manifest.

Choice holds so much power and mystery.

Your job is to let it in. Obviously there’s ways to work with choice to make it more powerful and have it pack more of a punch. But for now, let it really sink in: choice matters.

Allow yourself to let in the power and mystery of choice. That’s where it starts.

And remember, some part of you is making choices all day long. If it’s not you, then who is it?

We’ll be talking more about choice later.

Once again, I’m going to ask you to share this article by clicking on one of the links below. (Your choice!) Because I want as many people as possible to read this. I’m on a mission… like you.


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{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

Mike April 29, 2013 at 1:47 pm

Yes, I agree that choice is vital. This is a very good article for people to read. Recognizing that you have choice is important for people who FEEL that they are stuck in their mindset and situations. You may not always be able to change all situations, but you at least can start to look,feel and approach situations and that can lead to hope and even real change in specific circumstances.



Mark I Myhre April 29, 2013 at 4:34 pm

Hey Mike,

yes, I know what it’s like to have total disdain for choice.

I think the main thing I want to convey here is that as long as there is choice, then there is HOPE


Carolyn Erickson April 29, 2013 at 3:06 pm

Dear Mark:
Thank you for this! You word things in such a readable and personable and personal way and the messages really hit home. You must be on a mission to lift up humanity. Awesome stuff!


Mark I Myhre April 29, 2013 at 4:36 pm

Thanks Carolyn,

good to hear from you.

as for the mission – I know we’ve all got one, even if I can’t quite figure out exactly what it is……


Wayne Isbell April 29, 2013 at 7:28 pm

I got totally distracted at the beginning of your post. Detroit and Pink Cadillacs. I’ve lived or worked in the Motor City for 40 years. Hometown girl, Aretha Franklin, sings about her pink Cadillac in ‘Freeway of Love.’ Otherwise a good article.


Mark I Myhre April 29, 2013 at 7:55 pm

Sorry about that! Guess I should have talked about the South side of Chicago instead…


Mark I Myhre April 29, 2013 at 8:32 pm

I have some really good friends from Detroit, and they’re proud of their city. I was actually taking a cheap shot at them when I wrote this.


carol Masden April 30, 2013 at 3:03 pm

Hi Mike –
Great article – just what I needed. I tend to let others make choices for me, it seems to be so hard to zero in on the right choice, in case it is wrong, and so easy to sit back and let others do it… however, I shall endeavor, from this point forward, to take the issue to heart, and determine the alternatives available, and actually make a determination. Hopefully, this inspiration will stay with me…..


Mark I Myhre May 2, 2013 at 1:43 pm

Hey Carol,

I’ve found it helps to keep finding new inspiration too!


Leslie May 1, 2013 at 6:56 pm

Hi! Mark ,

This Is One Of The Best Articles You Have Done. It’s Really Made Me Think About The Things I Do. Thank You Very Much For Sharing It With Me!

I Hope All Is Well With You And Your Family. My Family And I Are Well Ourselves.

Well, That’s It For Now. Take Good Care Of Yourself, And Stay Well!



Mark I Myhre May 2, 2013 at 1:44 pm

thanks, Leslie


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