Emotional Healing Background Info
I’ve got an ‘emotional healing agenda’.
I want you to know what it feels like to have emotional dominion.
Notice I didn’t say emotional freedom. The last thing in the world I want is for you – or anyone else for that matter – to be free of emotions.
Free of the stories about emotions – yes.
Free of the emotions – no.
Hey, I want you to feel more, not less!
“But what if I feel awful? I don’t want to feel more awful!”
I hear you. I don’t either. I want to feel good. But more important than feeling good is to just plain feel. Period.
Here’s the thing:
You’ve got a flow of emotion flowing through you all the time. We all do. When you let it flow, like it’s supposed to, then you’ll probably end up feeling wonderful most of the time. Not all the time, but enough… enough for you to know you’re on the right track and you’re doing the right thing.
But most people do all they can to shut down that flow. They almost had to, just to survive their childhood.
Imagine yourself, back before you were born…
A free and powerful spirit. Your only boundaries are the ones you choose yourself. You live in love and light and life. Out of your love, out of your power, you choose to come down to this earth and inspire others with your light.
“I can make it. I can be an inspiration to others. I WILL.”
And so here you come, naked and helpless and crying. Oh, and you have amnesia too.
All those great plans, all those power meetings you attended to go over your strategies and tactics… all those practice sessions… all that training…
It’s like it didn’t even happen. Forget being an inspiration. You’re just trying to survive.
You have no idea who you are. You have no idea where you are. When it comes right down to it, you don’t know jackshit.
Everybody’s a giant. They could smash you like a bug. Maybe they did.
Everything is so big… so important. Everybody has so much impact on you. You start getting a cold hard dose of reality. The rubber has hit the road.
When you were back home, it’s almost easy to lose sight of how tough it is down here. It’s easy to sit around a conference table and talk about what you’re going to do down there on earth. Bravado comes easy. Don’t think you didn’t have it.
But really, you knew what you were getting in to. You figured you could handle it just fine. Why not?
You knew how much you are loved. You knew you would always be watched over once you got here. And you knew how powerful you really are.
But you also knew what kind of place you were going to. There’s an energy here… of domination. It’s kind of ugly when you step back and look at it. But when you’re down here in the middle of it, it seems kind of natural. Of course you have to fight to survive. Everybody knows that. It’s a dog-eat-dog world.
Well, that’s true. It is. But you came here to change all that.
There’s an energy of domination – of chauvinism – of martyr – that blankets this planet like a cheap suit of clothes.
Its not nice and its not pretty. And it actually wants you to try to fight it. It wants you to get on its level. It wants you to believe your only option is to control the hell out of everything you possibly can. It wants you to believe struggle has value. In fact, it’s almost your only source of value… if you believe the lie.
Part of chauvinism states emotions are bad and wrong and you shouldn’t even have them. And if you must feel, then go off somewhere it private until you get over them. Feelings are weak and you’re pathetic if you even have them.
And so…’everyone knows’ feelings are a weakness. They make you weak. If you feel, then you’ll be out of control.
You must learn how to control your emotions!
How young were you when you learned that lesson?
Too young to remember, I’ll bet.
And now they’ve got books on it. So you can do it better. Good grief! You were doing it since you were two years old. You don’t need to read a book. You just need to recognize the problem:
=> You voluntarily came to a planet that devalues emotions…
=> You didn’t have the wherewithal to question…
=> You quickly learned to play ball. You had to survive…
=> And part of the survival mechanism meant you had to shut down your emotions, to whatever degree.
You had to shut down emotionally. And now, when I come along and tell you to open your heart full and wide and feel anything and everything in the world that you possibly can…
On a certain level, it almost seems to threaten your very survival.
Now here’s the rub:
If you’re feeling bad, terrible, rotten, awful… whatever… what you’re really feeling is your own survival mechanism.
Let’s look at that a little closer.
1. You had to shut down to survive your childhood
2. You did this by creating blockages to your feelings
3. Those blockages are real
4. They still exist today
5. You’ve outgrown the need for those blockages
6. Once upon a time they saved you, but now they are choking you
7. The blockages have become the source of your emotional pain
See, it’s not the emotions that hurt you and cause you pain. It’s the blockages. They’ve become like little pain factories.
When you feel bad, awful, rotten, terrible… (which aren’t really feelings at all) what you’re really feeling are the blockages you set up many years ago.
You see, those four words I used to describe how you may be feeling… they’re thoughts. Not feelings.
You can’t feel rotten. It’s impossible. But you can think you feel rotten.
You get what I’m saying here?
We try to think our way out of feeling. And we do a pretty darn good job of it. Too bad it’s killing us.
Remember, you came here for a reason. You’ve got a mission to accomplish. Then you’ll go home.
I realize ‘when you’re up to your ass in alligators, it’s hard to remember you initial objective was to drain the swamp.’
But as I’ve said before – the pain you feel – the discontent, the discomfort – is the tip of a thread that leads all the way to your life’s purpose.
What does that mean?
Pain is a feedback mechanism. It’s trying to tell you something. The purpose of pain is not to make you suffer. The purpose of pain is to help you… to show you… that you’ve separated from yourself. You’ve separated from your emotions. And perhaps you’ve separated from other things as well.
Pain means you’re barking up the wrong tree. It’s time to change something.
And that’s why I wrote this website. I want to help reduce the pain. It was never meant to be this painful. You didn’t plan on dying in the belly of the beast of pain. Remember? You had a plan that involved moving beyond the pain.
What I want to do on this site is list out all the basics of emotional healing. Everything you need to know. To answer all your questions about feeling your feelings.
To do that, I need your help.
What questions do you have?
What would you like to know?
What’s the source of the discomfort?
Obviously, I don’t know everything. But I have spent many thousands of hours over many years learning how to heal myself emotionally. I’m kind of obsessed with the topic of emotional healing. Hopefully, I can cut your learning curve so it doesn’t take you as long as it took me.
Anyway, please leave your questions or comments below, so I’ll know what to write about on the site.
And here’s the next article – http://www.emotionaire.com/you-have-a-heart